Your Shabbat might have started a relatively ordinary Sabbath. Only somewhere along the way, things blew up. Now you’re in the middle of a massive conflict with no clear idea just how you got there. The last thing we want is conflict within Hebraic Roots groups, especially on Shabbat!
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It’s normal to fall into conflict – we’re only human, after all. Some conflict is even good for us! But did you know that by understanding just how these blow-ups come about, you can learn how to avoid many of these conflicts within Hebraic Roots in the first place?
Conflict comes about because we’ve hit a point of disagreement with another person. While a difference of opinion doesn’t have to turn into conflict, every conflict has at its heart a difference of opinion.
These differences typically manifest in these areas:
- A difference in values (family-oriented or academic setting favored)
- A difference in motivations (usually based on spiritual gifting, but sometimes pure selfishness)
- A difference in what you perceive is true or necessary or Biblical (knowledge puffs up)
- A difference in wants (styles, music, leadership preferences)
- A gap in the understanding of various ideas, opinions, or even ideals (a refusal to hear and comprehend other perspectives)
- An adamant refusal to agree to disagree
How do these differences then turn into conflicts within Hebraic Roots?
The Difference has Somehow Become Perceived as a Threat
Whenever you feel threatened, there’s going to be trouble. Threats bring out that whole urge to fight to protect what’s important to you. Hence your disagreement escalates into the realm of conflict.
Conflict within Hebraic Roots often involves a threat to pride. I may think you are insulting my intelligence, scholarship, or education if you disagree with my conclusions.
In addition, many times, we desire a gifting other than our own. We have seen incredibly gifted teachers and worship leaders cause splits because they only esteem a leadership role and consider their personal gifting beneath them.
You’ve Let that Conflict Fester – Easy to Do in Hebraic Roots
So, what might have felt like a minor threat at the beginning has become something much bigger in nature because of two factors.
First, you neglected the conflict by not dealing with it right away. It has been shocking to see how terrified and unwilling most folks are of disagreements. Most refuse to acknowledge conflict within Hebraic Roots. Sadly, these folks trick themselves into believing they are peacemakers, all the while gossiping and holding grudges instead of following Biblical guidelines.
These self-proclaimed peace-makers undermine authority and often manipulate and draw others into their complaints and perceived woes.
“When the Pharisees could not contend with Him by Scripture or deny His signs, they accused Him of doing harm to the people of Israel.”Monte Judah, Blog
Second, the passage of time has given the conflict room to grow. We’ve changed our lifestyle radically to align with Hebraic Roots living, right? Yet, we allow ourselves to stew and simmer over our prideful egos.
So, now it’s blown up into something bigger than the original conflict ever was. Now instead of being introspective and communicative, we have a full-blown war on our hand. How? Keep reading, and you’ll see.
By Now, your Perception is Off-Kilter, a Cause of Conflict within Hebraic Roots
It might be that what you perceived to be a threat – was never a threat in the first place. How does this happen? Chances are you lost your objectivity in the situation. Especially if you felt threatened.
Many of us are selfish, maybe most. We want what is comfortable for ourselves. We want attention and praise – yes, from men. And when we feel like we have a lack of control, we start a slow boil; we imagine motivations in others that simply aren’t there. Indeed, if we had been willing to address when it first bothered us would have been cleared up.
Your Emotions Took the Driver’s Seat
Conflicts tend to attract strong emotions. When someone claims to be non-emotional or exhibits an unnatural calm, they may be a manipulator. Or possibly someone who from childhood has been taught emotions are wrong. Emotions are not bad. Passion is not wrong. Being strong in Him is ideal.
However, the stronger the emotion, the more possibility you are to blow things out of proportion. As in all areas, we must keep our minds in charge, not our brains or emotions. Emotional reactions also make it a lot harder to deal with a conflict in the first place, as so many people are terrified of feelings in others. People will often refuse to hear from you if you are emotional. Moreover, chances are if you got nervous, you’ve already lost, as your naysayers will use your this against you.
Remember this: Conflict in Hebraic Roots Can Be Avoided
You need to maintain your objectivity, keep your emotions in check, and realize that every conflict is an opportunity to grow. Disagreements are normal in life.
But it’s the resolution of disputes that draws us closer together and builds both trust and intimacy. When we are willing to be real and genuine with one another, we create an authentic environment where everyone feels heard and understood.
There is no way everyone gets to have everything their way. That is not reality and neither is it healthy to strive for that! We can listen and comprehend one another though and establish trust.
Conflict within Hebraic Roots will continue until we are willing to die to ourselves and that includes dying to our desire to be in charge, have everything the way I think it should be and letting go of our pride. A humble walk is required.
Easier said than done? Yup! But worth the effort!The Israel Bible Daily Inspirations