We have to admit the Hebraic faith as a whole has not been much of an example of communicating with love.
Growing in Messiah is a deeply personal journey that we are meant to travel together. Communicating in love is not something we can learn to do on our own though.
Yet communication with our fellow travelers is seldom easy. Often, problems arise when we choose to express our thoughts. Sometimes problems arise in the process of expressing how we feel, however, this does not mean we should shut down and not try.
Even outside our close friends and families being able to express ourselves is essential.
Communicating with Love Requires Forethought?
To communicate with love well, perhaps we need to put some forethought into our communications. This seems especially pertinent within our Hebraic Faith. As we often feel like we are observing bulls in china shops as others (and perhaps ourselves) endeavor to get points across.
Of course, we don’t want to be unnatural in our conversations.
Think about the people you are desiring to communicate with – think through if they have shown any indications that they are open to understanding you truly? Communicating in love might include discernment into the openness of one another to hear and understand.
If you find me long-winded or pompous or only interested in my own point of view, there is a good chance you are not going to have much interest in understanding my opinions, beliefs or thoughts. This will be particularly true if I am unable to admit my opinions, beliefs, and thoughts are just that – if I insist they are TRUTH – well, I am showing my pridefulness, arent I?
“There are six things the Lord hates,Proverbs 6:16-19
seven that are detestable to him:
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
a false witness who pours out lies
and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.”
If we keep ourselves calm and recognize our thoughts, opinions, and beliefs are just that, we will have an easier time being heard.
We can also choose to be the listener. How much easier is it for all of us to consider someone else’s thoughts if we feel they have done their utmost to understand you?
“All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.”Matthew 7:12
If you feel what you want to communicate is difficult, we may want to write out our thoughts first. This can help us find the right words.
Communicating with love is possible!
The key is to find ways we can communicate meaningfully, lovingly, and wisely.
With this sort of forethought, we honor our fellow travelers and create relationships that build on respect and understanding.