Home Fellowship & Children

How to Help the Children Resolve Their Conflicts with Others

While you can expect conflicts at work and home, it’s the conflicts at home fellowship that can be especially frustrating, more so when they involve the kids.

Children quite simply don’t understand the finer points of a situation, meaning they frequently take a very simplistic view of things – and react very emotionally when things don’t go their way. 

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Add their peers into the mix, and you have a disaster waiting to happen.

Helping your children to learn how to resolve their conflicts with others is an important step in helping them on the path to adulthood. Below, find a list of things you might not have thought of when it comes to guiding your children in conflict resolution with others. These tips would also make good teaching moments for the home fellowship, including the adults.

Teach Your Children How to Stay in Control

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As mentioned before, it’s very easy for a child to react emotionally. After all, they’ve done it since they were babies, teaching them how to control strong emotions is a skill they’ll need for their entire life.

Teach them self-soothing strategies such as counting to 10, taking several deep breaths before responding, or simple prayer techniques. Yeah, we hear you, adults need to learn this stuff also.

Give the Children the Language to Express Themselves

Tell your child it’s good to explain how something made them feel, but not to blame other people when doing so.

Talk to them about differing perspectives and understandings in a home fellowship. Personalities come in all shapes and sizes and are not bad or good. Personalities should be regarded as unique and Yah-given.

Then show them that after speaking comes listening to what the other person has to say. This is a key element to communication that most adults in Hebraic home fellowships have missed. Let’s make sure our children embrace this.

Conflict is a slippery slope. Some children try to escape from a conflict, while others try to solve it by going on the attack. Few naturally try to work it out.”

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Model for your child how to brainstorm solutions when home fellowship get difficult.

Even young children can quickly learn this skill, as children are especially creative naturally.

Role-play Situations within the Home Fellowship

If a child has had a repeating conflict with peers, then help them practice how to react to those conflicts. That will help them to be better prepared when the situation arises again.

Indeed, better yet, would be instituting role-playing conflict resolution within the entire home fellowship. Teach conflict resolution as a part of your core identity as a home fellowship.

Teach Children about Fairness and the Adults Might Learn Something!

Rather than constantly nagging at your child to take turns or to share, help them to learn a mindset of thinking about others through your actions. Sure, you can reward the behavior you want to see, but it’s through learning empathy that these lessons stick.

It will help them through conflict resolution when they can look at a situation and ask the question for themselves, “Was this fair?” Along those same lines though, you want your children to understand that our human idea of fairness is not Biblical.

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Life is not fair, situations are not fair. And teaching our children and ourselves to accept that is so helpful in all areas of life. Moreover, the more that understanding can sink into your home fellowship, the more the group will blossom into contentment in their Creator.

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Helping your child in conflict resolution is something you as a parent should take very seriously. Of all the life skills you teach your child, this is one of the most important. If you are a leader or servant-hearted, think about teaching these concepts to your home fellowship group.

But remember, that while using these steps to guide them might be a good jumping-off point, the parent knows their child better than anyone. Use what’s logical to you that will teach them best. And then allow them the freedom to practice those skills as they function as a part of the home fellowship.

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